LPT: When you are trying to resolve an issue with your partner, sit down face-to-face and hold each other's hands while talking.

I used to have a lot of angry outbursts. Holding my boyfriend's hands while talking about things that make me angry or hurt has helped me to control these outbursts, and to talk productively. When I start talking louder or it's clear I'm getting upset, my boyfriend squeezes my hands and it brings me back down. When I ask my boyfriend a question and he starts reverting back to his old habit of stonewalling, I squeeze his hands and it brings him back to the conversation.